It is difficult to fully understand the dynamics of modern-day relationships, perhaps because we keep looking at them through the lenses of what love used to be a generation or two ago.
Maybe we are wrong is doing so, or maybe not, but one thing is for sure that today the definition of love has changed drastically over the years. The introduction and involvement of technology had a major role to play in this and also the lifestyle changes that it brought into people’s life.
But what makes a modern-day relationship hard?
Why love seems to lose every battle as we keep on trying to get it right?
Why it seems like people don’t know how to love each other anymore?
It has become so easy to find love, but so difficult to keep it. Isn’t it?
We want everything quickly, from success in our careers to our food at a restaurant’s table, and perhaps this unending greed of instant gratification have crept into our emotional side, encapsulating the feeling of love as well.
We are afraid of longer commitments, we shy away from opening ourselves to someone to an extent where we develop a sense of deeper attachment maybe because we know that another attempt at love is just right swipe away. We skip from one person to the other like we are not looking for love but trying out clothes.
Gone are days when we used to wait for the Mr. or Mrs. Right, now we just swipe right.
In our struggle to pursue our dreams and careers we often take love as something we don’t have time for. And hence instead of completely experiencing the feeling of being in love we often tend to just scratch its surface.
We are busy, extremely busy to give any time to love so in the end relationships just become a matter of convenience for us.
But we do need someone in our lives, right? Someone to go out for a party or watch a movie with, someone to spend time with, someone to share our stories with, someone to talk about how our day was.
In the end that is all it remains to, we just look for someone so that we don’t feel alone. We want our Instagram and Snapchat stories to be full of life, even if the reality is totally opposite.
Someone to go out to a party or watch a movie with, someone to spend time with, someone to share our stories with, someone to talk about how our day was. In the end that is all it remains to, we just look for someone so that we don’t feel alone. We want our Instagram and Snapchat stories to be full of life, even if the reality is totally opposite.
We date a lot, well simply because we can. What’s wrong in keeping options, isn’t it?
We get attracted to people in a flash, but not attach ourselves too much to them. There is a reason we are termed as ‘The hook-up-break-up Generation’.
All we desire from these dates is sex, and nothing more. No sense of a deeper belonging, no search for a lifelong partner, we just need instant happiness with no strings attached as they say.
Some of us are scared, scared of what might happen if it doesn’t work out. What if I leave myself vulnerable in front of someone and then he/she leaves? How will I be able to deal with that?
We build these walls around ourselves and don’t let anyone in and then wonder why we are not able to feel love.
Relationships have just become another word for us nowadays. And love just a fairy-tale.